Good Girls

Define good girls... Everybody has an opinion about a good girl...so whats yours? #GoodGirls

 

 

Good girls are supposed to be a lot of things all at the same time. This is captured by the following DOs and DO NOTs such as.... 

 

DO NOTs :

 

a) Do not go to late night parties.

b) Do not smoke or drink or do drugs.

c) Do not use swear words.

d) Do not laugh or talk loudly.[as in- create noise pollution :P]

e) Do not spend long hours gossiping on phone or chatting on net.

f) Do not practice infidelity rather be a one-man woman. [Remembering Kareena Kapoor in 'Jab We Met'!]

g) Do not be lazy rather work efficiently and multi-task.

h) Do not spend money like water, rather save it and use it judiciously to get 'value for money'. Then only can the girl be 'Lakshmi' or 'Goddess of Wealth' for her own and in-laws' family!

i) Do not use excess salt, oil or gas in cooking. Good girls are concerned about family's health, taste and expenses!

j) Do not watch porn or wear *vulgar* clothes.

k) Do not talk to *strangers*. Or at least, do not *fall in love* on the first day of meeting. [Remembering movie 'Frozen' where Elsa's sister claims how she is in love within minutes of meeting the Prince! Thankfully Elsa is a 'good girl'! :P]

DOs : 

 

a) Sleep on time and wake up early.

b) Know how to cook basic meals. Knowing to cook more variety is a big plus!

c) Remain composed to handle any situation and keep tempers in check.

d) Be hungry to learn more- knowledge, skills, processes, culture.

e) Help people and be kind, polite, empathetic.

f) Can adjust to different situations.

g) Can solve problems peacefully than yelling, screaming at others.

h) Prays. Can chant mantras.

Yet there are many girls who do none of the above and still are tagged 'good'. And there are others who do most of the above still are tagged 'bad'. So many prejudices/biases also come in. Damned if you do. Damned if you don't.

SOCIETY'S #GoodGirls :

Society wants you to not protest, scream or hit others and to take any beating hands down, to call you a 'good girl'. Example is the Haryana sisters duo, who have variously been labelled 'bad' after other videos surfaced. Our patriarchal society has a mould for fitting into which, they try to raise every girl so that she can then be called 'good'. Else she is labelled 'bad'. This is sad but true.

Even in twenty first century, girls remain so subdued in Indian society. Only so that they can be called 'good' and accepted as such by society, they do not explore their personalities fully. Many sporty girls in villages with capacity to win medals remain backward. Many girls are killed in the name of 'honour', as loving outside their caste/religion makes them terribly 'bad' deserving death. Many girls who are assaulted just remain mum as expressing it will make them 'bad', bringing all fault on them.

All this must change. Enough of judging girls. Just let them be. Let every family allow equal rights to boys and girls first. Then watch how things change. Like our Prime Minister says, do you as parents ever ask questions to your boys that where are they going and when they will return?

CONCLUSION :

 

I feel good girls are those with good hearts- those who smile, spread cheer and help others. Good girls are good citizens, good daughters/mothers/wives/friends/girlfriends. They are loyal, trustworthy and mostly polite. They respect Indian culture while also embracing modern thoughts where needed. They thus strike a balance between tradition and modernity.

Good girls assert themselves when the situation desires. They do not harbour mentality of cheating other men or women. They like to be in their senses and to take responsibility and full charge.

Oops...are they not the rarest of the rare breed in today's world?!